by Tracee Sioux
I am a spiritual business and life coach who helps people figure out which of those inner voices is their Soul and which is their Ego. I wrote a book about it, Soul vs. Ego Smackdown: How to say YES! to your Soul and tell your Ego to Suck IT!
You might say I'm a Soul Whisperer or an Ego Slayer. Or you might not.
I want to tell you what three of the biggest tricks of the Ego are if you're a writer. Knowing what they are will help you bypass them so that you can get your write on.
1. I don't have enough time: good heavens this trick is so powerful in the Western world that we've practically made busyness a religion. It's really unnecessary, however. It's just the Ego filling your time so that you don't write. It will fill your time with distractions, "must-dos" that are really "don't dos," drama with relationships and too much other work. It will have you spending four hours in the car chauffeuring your kids around and watching them live a life without actually living one yourself. I know. I did this. Rush. Rush. Rush. Just stop it. It's a trick. Don't fall for it. Start saying NO and mean it. Cut some things out of your life that are unnecessary and not bringing you joy.
2. I don't have enough money: We, in America, are the richest nation in the history of the world, with luxury goods that would make our ancestors drool with envy and yet somehow we are all broke. It's a collective mental illness to live in a half a million dollar home and drive an SUV that takes $100 to fill the gas tank and to say, "I can't, I don't have enough money!" Yes, writing will take time away from your other business. And it will cost money to build a marketing platform for your work. It will cost money to edit and design your book projects. But, so what? Is that an iPhone you're FBing on while you drink a latte at Starbucks? Tell your Ego, "hey, if anything is worth spending money on it's this, because it's my Soul Purpose." So skip that latte and invest in your writing.
3. I'm not good enough: There are variations of this theme, but essentially they are all the same. Your Ego asks you, "who do you think you are to write this or tell people you're an expert in this topic?" Seriously every single person on the planet has had one version or more of this pop up in their lives. Maybe you feel like you have to have a psychotherapist degree to speak about the human condition, or a doctorate in theology to write about God, or make a billion dollars before you can talk about money or have a doctorate in creative writing and win a prestigious fellowship so that you can legitimately write the Great American Novel. Once and for all—you don't. You don't need any other certifications, degrees or knowledge to write whatever you want to write. Nothing more.
You are good enough, you're smart enough and gosh darn it, people like you!