|Even sitting he has a power 'Presence'|
By Jennifer Goble
Social Psychologist Amy Cuddy, in her book, Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges, speaks to the power of body language. I agree with her message. because I have been teaching the same technique to clients and students for years. The difference? She is on TED, and has sold a zillion books.
Cuddy’s principles are visible during the holidays. One example: Santa wears a big red jacket, fuzzy hat, big boots, and has a beard that flows down and around his chubby cheeks. He has a power pose extraordinaire, and takes up a lot of space. He walks slowly, and speaks less than anyone else. He has contagious, boisterous laughter, and looks people square in the eye.
The cover of my book, My Clients…My Teachers, shows a stick figure (Millie - named after my mother) demonstrating Amy Cuddy’s power stance. Millie shows how to deal with a bully; feet apart, elbows out, shoulders back, and clear eye contact.
It is a simple, effective stance to remember, especially for writers. Imagine taking a few minutes before sitting at your computer to stand tall with hands on your waist, and breathe deep into your chest, exhaling slowly, and envisioning your best self.
|Big 'Presence" for little treasures|
Cuddy’s theory claims to… “unleash your boldest self to heighten your confidence, influence others, and perform at your peak…By accessing our personal power, we can achieve “presence,” the state in which we stop worrying about the impression we’re making on others and instead adjust the impression we’ve been making on ourselves… we need to nudge ourselves, moment by moment, by tweaking our body language, behavior, and mind-set in our day-to-day lives.”
I wonder if the top three money earning authors, according to Forbes, James Paterson, Steven King, and Janet Evanovich take a pause before sitting at the keyboard to activate their best creativity, highest esteem, and confidence.
Amy Cuddy claims, scientifically, how we stand, hold our arms, and position our shoulders, has a direct affect on our performance and success. Let us apply Cuddy’s principles of presence when we write, when we have book signings, and when we speak to groups.
Santa is proof the theory works, so let’s mimic the boss of Christmas and present our best author-self.
How powerful is YOUR writing presence?
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.
Until the next time: Live while you live!