Monday, November 18, 2013

Monday Rerun: Recovery Time

(This repeat brought to you by NaNoWriMo. We're past the midpoint, woo hoo!)

Post by Jenny

My husband and I are fairly good examples of how opposites attract. He is tall, I am short. He is social, I am a writer. (D’oh! Just a little writing humor for your morning.) He is athletic, I am decidedly not. The only sport I attempt to play is tennis, and he could easily beat me with one hand tied behind his back. In fact, I’d probably have to decommission all of his limbs—though not as drastically as Monty Python’s Black Knight—to win more than a game or two.

But, I try. And during one recent attempt, I ran up on a ball and then decided that I needed to run back instead. Even though my momentum was already committed in one direction, I tried to reverse course. The result was a pulled muscle, somewhere in the neighborhood of my gluteus maximus (which I always must pronounce like Richard Harris in Gladiator). I’m sure that if I were a cartoon character, the sound would have been sproing, and lightning bolts of pain would have radiated from my backside.

Long story short, it was weeks before I could sit comfortably.

Even though my recovery time for physical injury is longer than it used to be, my recovery time for other things is getting shorter. Writer’s rejection, for example. I don’t remember the first one I ever got, but I know it affected me for days. So did the second, and the third, and…well, just keep counting for a while.

No writer enjoys rejection. No one opens that email thinking, ooh, I hope they said no. No one likes to not win the contest or have a critique partner tell you, in so many gently chosen words, that what you’ve written is not ready for prime time. Rejection can be depressing, especially in the beginning when it’s flat-out scary to share your work with a stranger. But the quicker you can recover from it and submit again, the closer you are to having someone say yes. When rejection comes, give yourself a little time to feel bad, and then move on. (And it’s okay if you need a couple of guys named Ben and Jerry to help you do it.)

What helps you recover from rejection?


Lynn said...

Time helps. I step away from the rejection and play with my dog, nuzzle my husband's neck, dance to my iPod. I am a writer and much, much more. Funny thing is, I react much the same way to an acceptance. I guess that's what's called perspective, eh?

Anonymous said...

Like many writers, I've gotten so many rejections, and I don't think much about them. The bright side is that if a piece is rejected by one publisher, it's free to be submitted elsewhere with perhaps some revision.

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