Post by Kerrie
It is such a harsh word. It is definite, direct and always seen as negative. When I think of rejection, I think of someone being left at the alter, a child being ignored by her parents, or a guy asking a girl to dance and she laughs in his face. That to me is rejection.
Yet as writers, we toss it the word around like a ball and even wear it as a badge of honor.
I want to know when a "no thank you" from an editor, agent or publisher became synonymous with rejection. I don't see them as the same thing at all.
Imagine you are at a nice restaurant and the waiter asks if you would like to order the chef's special; Chicken breast stuffed with blanched fresh spinach leaves and Boursin cheese, sauteed Shiitake mushrooms and baked asparagus with balsamic butter sauce. You think it sounds it good, but you want something else, so you say, "no thank you."
When the waiter goes in the kitchen to put the order in and the chef finds out you ordered something else besides her special, do you think she screams and drops to her knees, sobbing, wondering what she did wrong and agonizing over the fact that you didn't want what she was offering?
I don't think so. It boils down to the fact that you were offered something you didn't want, so you responded politely with a "no thank you." It wasn't anything personal, you just didn't feel like eating chicken.
Isn't that the same thing that happens in publishing? We send our work out to see if an agent, editor or publisher is interested and they respond with a "yes" or a "no thank you."
They are not rejecting us or our work, they are simply responding to us. They know what they want and not everyone is going to offer them what they are looking for. Rejection can beat us down, but a response is just that--a response. There is no judgement attached to it, making it easy to move on. It is much easier to tell our critique group, "I got a response from an editor today..."
I say we start a movement or even a revolution stopping writers from using the word rejection! Let's call it like it is (a response) and stop being martyrs for the sake of our art. I think we would all be happier as a result.
Now all we need is a catchy slogan....